Posted tagged ‘truth’

Visioning in real life

July 25, 2009

Many of us know that we want to create a vision for ourselves so we can get to where we want to in our lives.  Yet somehow, developing this vision is easier said than done.  What does visioning look like?  In my last post I outlined a process to guide you in developing a vision of where you want to be.  Today I will give you an example of how I applied this formula as I have set out goals for where I want to be in my business.

One of my goals is to be invited to speak and conduct workshops on the international stage.  As I achieve this goal, my vision is that I continue to be true to my values of family and relationship with my success.  To apply the formula of what it will look, sound, and feel like to accomplish this goal I have the following on my vision board.

I have a picture of an invitation from a Woman’s support network in Paris, inviting me to conduct a two day workshop with their membership on learning to live authentically in the moment.  Beside the invitation, I have a picture of my husband, my 3 children and their spouses standing in front of The Four Seasons Hotel in Paris where there is a poster displaying details of my workshop that is being presented.  Beside that I have a picture of me facilitating a workshop of woman.  The woman are smiling, chatting with each other, working at tables.  There are captions above the women’s heads indicating what they are saying about me “Thank you so much for this workshop, I feel inspired to make the changes I need” “this is exactly what I need to move forward in my life” . A caption above my head reads “I love what I do, I feel like I am truly making a difference in these women’s lives”.

As I work with this vision and putting the details on paper, I get into how it feels for me to accomplish this goal.  I pay attention to where in my body I notice the sensation of excitement and honor I feel to be able to do this work.  For me, the feeling is in the solar plexus, half way between the belly button and the rib cage.  I get in touch with the textures, colors and sensations of the feeling.  On my vision board, I  have the words to describe these feelings.  This vision board is displayed in my office.  It is specific to the goal I have for this aspect of my vision.  I have other vision boards that capture the essence of other goals that I want to accomplish.

I love this process as it is fun and inspiring.  The other thing I put on my vision board is the statement “This or something better is my goal”  which helps me be open to the possibility of an even better outcomes.

WHAT do you want?  Can you get into the sights, sounds, feelings and textures of the goal?  Allow yourself to dream.  As you gain clarity on what you want, the HOW to accomplish this goal will start to show up.

Take care and I will blog with you soon.

Gerrianne

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Giving yourself permission to be negative!!

June 30, 2009

I have written before about giving yourself permission and even outlined 24 things I would do if I gave myself permission to.  Yet in the last couple of weeks, I have seen more evidence of how many ways we hold ourselves back in life because we do not give ourselves permission.

When was the last time you gave yourself permission to be negative? I love all of the work that has surfaced on “The Secret” and the “Law of Attraction“.  I believe it has given people an opportunity to look at their mindset and how their thoughts and actions create an attraction to what shows up in their lives.  What I have noticed however, is that many people are petrified to feel anything but positive and optimistic about their lives.  They do not give themselves permission to be negative, think negatively or anything of the sort.  Sometimes, feeling worried and negative is our reality and we just need to give ourselves permission to feel it because withholding it and pretending it does not exist keeps it fired up within your system.  What I suggest for my clients (and I do regularly for myself) is to give themselves full permission to feel the negativity .

Find a safe place for you to be alone and with your emotion

Outline everything about the situation that makes you scared, angry and negative,

Don’t hold back

Really get into it

Outline the worst scenario that could possibly happen.

Write it out

Give it a voice

When you feel you are at the end of this release, take a deep breath

Let it go

By allowing yourself to fully express the worry, fear and negativity you help to release it out of your system.  It no longer has any power over you.  Many people spend so much time worrying about being negative that they can’t move on from that place.  By naming it and giving it a voice, the emotion no longer has a hold over you allowing you to release it and let it go.

Let me know what you think.

Blog with you soon.

Gerrianne

Telling yourself the truth

June 11, 2009

I just had the opportunity to read a great blog about limiting beliefs by Kim de Young of Metromom.  It is worthwhile reading for any of you who know that your subconscious beliefs get in the way of moving forward.  She has a great way of sharing her insights. http://metromom.com/MetromomBlog/2009/06/10/women-entrepreneurs-are-limiting-beliefs-holding-you-back/

Some of the most amazing growth periods in my life and in my business have been because I have taken the time to look at my life, tell myself the truth about how I feel and take some action steps to help me get to where I want to go.  That having been said, sometimes I have to admit, I just don’t want to take a look. Even more than that, I may take a look but I don’t want to tell myself the truth about how I feel. Deep down however, when I do not tell myself the truth, I know that I am kidding myself and eventually it will all catch up with me.

Today, I want you to ask yourself just one question – In this moment – how do I feel about my life. You may be happy, content, peaceful, excited and energized. I hope so.

However, for many people this is not how they feel about their life.  Many people are sad, angry, scared, frustrated or any other negative emotion.  If this is the case

Take an intentional breath

Name that feeling – it helps to name the emotion – angry, sad, scared

Ask yourself – what can I do about this RIGHT NOW

You may want to go outside catch a breath of fresh air, walk around the block,

You may need to Blow off some steam

Tell yourself the truth

Take action

Take another deep intentional breath

Let me know how you do and if you have any questions.

Blog with you later

Gerrianne