Archive for the ‘Intention’ category


July 31, 2009

Summer is here and in full swing.  The urge to sit back, relax and do nothing is strong.  Yet I have many things that I need to DO.

I have to admit, I have never liked working in the summer.  It probably stems from when my kids were home and I found the summer was a time to connect with them, relax and enjoy the summertime pace.  Once school started back in September there was a lot of craziness in trying to balance their school, my work, extracurricular activities, driving them everywhere all the while trying to stay fit, healthy, relaxed and NICE.  Even now that my children are grown and out of the house, the relaxed pace of summer is nice.  There is more sunshine, longer days, and fitness and staying healthy are easier to achieve because it just is.  I love to golf, swim, hike, hang out by the pool, go to the lake etc. The TV is never on in our house and life is all about being and staying healthy.

I was reflecting last week that too much of my life revolves around “DOING”.  I feel a constant nagging at me to do this, do that, run here, run there – staying on the constant never ending treadmill we call life.  My life this summer has been a conflict between the doing and the being.  I notice that my moments of brilliance have come from “BEING” in my life. I know I have many things to do, however my writing, my joy and my inspiration have come from hanging out with friends,  family and mostly myself.  My greatest connection to myself has come when I allow myself to “BE”.  When I give myself permission to trust that I will get the impulse to take INSPIRED ACTION when the time is right, I no longer need to stress about “getting things done”.

What is INSPIRED ACTION? For me it means that I do only that which I feel inspired to do.  When I set the intention that I want to achieve a certain goal by a certain time and then “let it go”, it is amazing how the steps unfold easily and effortlessly.  When I force myself to take action, alot of this action comes from a “should” mind set and getting the job done takes much longer and in my mind is not nearly as good.

For example, I started writing this blog several times because I knew I wanted to get one written this week as I am going on holidays next week.  Lately I have not wanted to be in front of a computer writing blogs, I want to be outside enjoying the beautiful summer weather.  However, tonight, my husband and I went out for a lovely dinner with friends, had some great conversation, enjoyed some good food and some good wine and really connected with them on their journey through life.  When I got home, I felt the impulse to write this blog about my challenges with always “doing” what is expected of me instead of “BEING” in my moments and in my life NOW.  As I reflect on the challenges of developing the content for my new website, meeting deadlines (self-imposed) and being in integrity with what I believe I realize that once again, I AM DEVELOPING DEEPER AWARENESS of how I want to be in my life.  Only through this awareness can I change and grow.

So off I go now to enjoy some well deserved time off with my husband and youngest daughter. I feel so blessed to have them in my life and look forward to being with them for the next week.  While we are away, I am giving myself full permission to not think about work, content development, clients, workshops, writing my book or anything related to my work. However, what I know is that I love what I do and I am constantly being inspired by my day to day moments – so you may find me with a pen and paper scrolling notes while catching a few rays of sunshine at the lake.   This will truly be “inspired action”.
Take care all, enjoy next week and I will blog with you the week of August 11th.

Happy Summer



Celebrate, Celebrate and Celebrate some more

June 8, 2009

Do you give yourself permission to celebrate? We all know about the traditional celebrations of birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, graduations and even funerals where there is a celebration of a person’s life.  What about the rest of the time?  Do you only celebrate when there is a formal event to commemorate?  Do you ever celebrate and acknowledge the gift that you are, the accomplishments that you have made, the dreams you have conquered?

It can be challenging to celebrate.  I know there are times when I have made a list of things I want to get done in a day, worked hard and achieved 80% of what I intended to only to berate myself for not accomplishing 100% and more.  Sound familiar?  The answer is probably YES. How unfair is that!!! You beat yourself up because you did not get it ALL done but get no acknowledgement for doing 80%.

So my question to you is!!!  When are you enough? When is what you do enough?  Who is setting the yardstick by which you measure yourself?  My goal in writing this blog is to help you recognize how hard you are on yourself, what standards you expect to achieve and how little credit you give to yourself for what you do achieve.  If we only look at what we did not do, how will we ever recognize how hard we work and celebrate who we are.

Take 3 deep intentional breaths

Identify simple achievable, realistic goals for what you want to accomplish today

Set the intention for how you want to feel while working on your goals

e.g. focused, clear, efficient

Set priorities

Break your day and goals into small timed segments

Set the intention before you begin each segment

Breathe deeply and intentionally at the beginning of each segment

Get to work

Take an intentional breath at the end of the segment


If you did not get all that you wanted done in that segment, go back to the steps above and identify simple, achievable realistic goals on how you want to accomplish the remainder of your goal.


Let me know how you celebrate.  How hard is it? What commitment do you want to make about celebrating?

Take care all and I will blog with you later this week.


7 Steps to Help You SLOW DOWN

May 30, 2009

I remember several years ago I had a flurry of speeding tickets. I owned a children’s clothing store which was starting to falter, I had three kids doing various activities, we were building a house, and I never seemed to have enough time to do anything.  I always seemed to be rushing from hither to yon and within a three week period of time, I received two speeding tickets and a warning. I failed to mention that at this time, I was also doing a lot of soul searching on how I was living my life as I WAS NOT HAPPY.

When I was stopped by the cop on the third occasion, I looked at him and pleaded with him to not give me a ticket and apologized profusely.  I GOT IT THEN – I needed to SLOW DOWN – not just my driving but my life as well.

Today when I notice that racing feeling starting inside of me and I take the following steps:

1 – I take a deep intentional breath

2- Ask myself –What is my goal for the next hour or two? I define a segment of time and write down my goal.

3 – What do I need to do to accomplish my goal – I spend time outlining steps, prioritizing these steps, writing them down (this makes them tangible and easier to remember).  This process may take 2-5 minutes and saves valuable energy.

4 -Ask myself – HOW DO I WANT TO FEEL WHILE I AM WORKING ON THIS GOAL – I set the intention that I am present, focused, clear and efficient.  This is easier to do when I set the intention for this period of time i.e. one hour rather than a whole day.

5-  I start working on the steps, breathing and focusing on what I have set out to accomplish – staying in the moment

6 – About 5 minutes before the end of the segment of time (at 55 minutes – set a timer) I decide whether to carry on for longer or to stop working on the goal and write out what I need to do next time I work on it.

7- I take a deep intentional breath and acknowledge myself for the focused, clear, efficient work that I did the previous hour.

If I found that I was not as focused as I wished, I tell myself the truth and try to be gentle on myself and celebrate what I did accomplish. 

In reality I do this about 80% of the time and it works marvelously.  I try to be more intentional with my time because the rewards are endless.

If we don’t acknowledge what we have done we will never see how far we have come.

Blog with you soon.