Archive for the ‘In This Moment’ category

Tuning into your body!!

August 13, 2009

Our body is the most amazing vehicle we have to tune into the present moment.   Our body is with us at all times,  yet many of us do not spend any time in relationship with our bodies.

How does our body speak to us?  We feel sensations of hunger, thirst, tiredness, etc. We feel emotions of anger, sadness, frustration and joy.  We have voices that speak to us telling us what we should and should not do and we have our inner voice that tries to be heard.

When was the last time that you took time to tune into your body?  Do you know how to do this? In the next few posts I will give you some easy ways to start to tune into your body, moment by moment.

For today:

Take a deep intentional breath into the middle of your chest.

Notice any sensations in your hands and feet.

Notice the feeling in your face.

Is there any tension in your jaw, are your teeth clenched?

Relax your neck and shoulders – notice how they feel.

Notice your back and abdomen – what are the sensations there?

Take a moment to relax any areas in your body that you feel tension.

Take another deep intentional breath into the middle of your chest.

How do you feel after doing this?

Take a few minutes every day to tune into your body.  Schedule it for when you get up, at lunch, before you leave work and before you go to bed.  When you develop the habit of tuning in, you start to develop a better relationship with your body and you will learn to know what it needs.

Let me know if this works for you.  Blog with you later.



Permission to be Negative – Expanded

July 7, 2009

I have had a few people email me about my posts “Giving Yourself Permission to be Negative” and “Shining Light on the Shadow”. They raised the question about when is enough enough so that the “Law of Attraction” does not become attracted to the negative energy  you are releasing.  To make it clear – giving yourself permission to be negative is a way of releasing the energy that gets built up in your system when you do not express it. It is like trying to keep a cork on a bottle of carbonated soda you have just shaken.  Allowing the pressure to escape will result in a calm presence in the bottle afterwards.  If however, you do not release the pressure, it can take a long time for the pressure to release.

What are your beliefs about being negative? You may think that if you say something negative that you will attract negativity in your life.  Yet, how much negativity do we carry around that is unexpressed because we fear saying it out loud.  Where does this unspent negative energy go?  When do we give ourselves the opportunity to rid our bodies of this negative energy?  I do not profess to know the answers to these questions for you.  Only you can decide what is right for you. My goal is to help you develop some awareness of where the negativity goes.

Remember – There are safe and appropriate ways to release your negativity that do not impact others. You can do this in the privacy of your own home, your car, with a trusted friend who recognizes that you are just venting steam or out on a walk in nature where you can be nurtured by the beauty around you.  What I have found is after I give myself full permission to feel all that I need to feel – “warts and all”, I find myself at one with the world and feel like I can do anything. The negativity has disappeared and I reclaim my perspective that all is right with the world.  From that place I can move mountains.

I welcome your thoughts and feedback on giving yourself permission to be negative.  What do you notice works for you? Does the thought of letting yourself be negative scare you?  Is this a new concept for you or is this something that you allow yourself to do regularly.

Let me know, I would love to hear from you.


Shining Light on the Shadow

July 3, 2009

Many of us live in fear of something. Fear that we will be rejected, fear of what people will think or feel about us, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of being alone, fear of being in relationship etc.   This fear sits like a shadow or cloud over our heads that we know and  feel is there but we are too often scared to look at.

Did you ever have problems going to bed as a child because you were scared that there was something living in the closet or under the bed?  Monsters living in the shadows.  Then your mom or dad would come in and turn on the light and you could see there was nothing to fear.

For those of us who are living in fear, to truly let go of our fears we need to shine light onto the shadow i.e. that which truly scares us.

So what does this look like? As I wrote in my blog “Giving yourself permission to be negative”, we need to get into it.  Last week, we had a family situation that came up  and it conjured up a tremendous amount of fear in me.  I kept on getting into the worried state and then telling myself to “not worry”, then it was like telling me not to think of a “black horse” all I could do was concentrate on the worry.  I realized I did not want to look at what was really scaring me.  When I gave myself permission to be really scared and to get into the “worst case scenarios” of what could happen, things changed.

For me, when I did this I got quite emotional.  The fear became very real and I cried and cried.   I let myself feel it and did not try and stop it.  This process lasted only about 3-5 minutes.  Then, I felt a shift.  The fear was  less intense and I felt a physical release in my body.  Then I imagined the word peace and allowed the feeling of peace to fill my body.

If you want to shine the light on the shadows of your fear, try the following:

Go into “Cross body posture” (hands and feet crossed)

Close your eyes

Take a deep breath

Allow yourself to feel the fear of the situation

Really get into it

This will often get worse before it gets better

Notice when you feel a shift away from the intensity of the fear

Fill the space with a positive new feeling e.g. peace, freedom, love

This exercise helped me cast light on the shadow. I saw what was truly scaring me, not from a place of needless worry (repetitive thoughts that rehash the same thing over and over) but from a place of genuine exploration into the fear.   What I found since I did this exercise, is that I am not worried about the situation.  I am in a place of power where I can make rational decisions based on what is in front of me Now.

Let me know if you give this a try.  When I do this with clients, they often say that  “I was scared that I would go into the darkness and never get out but I was was amazed at how quickly the fear released and I was able to move onto what I wanted i.e. peace, freedom”.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Blog with you later.


Giving yourself permission to be negative!!

June 30, 2009

I have written before about giving yourself permission and even outlined 24 things I would do if I gave myself permission to.  Yet in the last couple of weeks, I have seen more evidence of how many ways we hold ourselves back in life because we do not give ourselves permission.

When was the last time you gave yourself permission to be negative? I love all of the work that has surfaced on “The Secret” and the “Law of Attraction“.  I believe it has given people an opportunity to look at their mindset and how their thoughts and actions create an attraction to what shows up in their lives.  What I have noticed however, is that many people are petrified to feel anything but positive and optimistic about their lives.  They do not give themselves permission to be negative, think negatively or anything of the sort.  Sometimes, feeling worried and negative is our reality and we just need to give ourselves permission to feel it because withholding it and pretending it does not exist keeps it fired up within your system.  What I suggest for my clients (and I do regularly for myself) is to give themselves full permission to feel the negativity .

Find a safe place for you to be alone and with your emotion

Outline everything about the situation that makes you scared, angry and negative,

Don’t hold back

Really get into it

Outline the worst scenario that could possibly happen.

Write it out

Give it a voice

When you feel you are at the end of this release, take a deep breath

Let it go

By allowing yourself to fully express the worry, fear and negativity you help to release it out of your system.  It no longer has any power over you.  Many people spend so much time worrying about being negative that they can’t move on from that place.  By naming it and giving it a voice, the emotion no longer has a hold over you allowing you to release it and let it go.

Let me know what you think.

Blog with you soon.


Good morning Body!!!

June 29, 2009

How many days do you jump (or stumble) out of bed, thinking about what you have to get done in one/two or three hours from NOW?  You head into the shower and the list of things you need to do is running like a ticker tape through your head.  From there, you grab your coffee, read the paper, feed the dog, get the kids up and out the door and before you know it you are in the car, heading off to work and you are wondering how you got there.

If you can relate to this scenario you are not alone. Thousands of people each and every day operate by remote control, going through the same routine morning after morning.  Do you ever stop and say – “Good morning” to your body. Think about it, our body gets us out of bed, processes all of the lists we need to complete in the day, digests our food, beats our heart, breathes air into our lungs, activates our muscles, maneuvers us throughout the day as well as thousands of other activities.  Yet somehow with all of this great work our body does for us, we neglect it, don’t listen to it and actually abuse it.  Is it any wonder our bodies are breaking down.

Lately I have started to pay attention to the relationship I have with my body.  I have known for years that I do not feel great when I eat and drink certain things yet, I consume them anyway.  I know how much better I feel when I stretch in the morning, meditate, do some exercise, etc. yet, I find other things to do instead.

What I have come to realize is that if our friends treated us like we treat our bodies, we would have ditched our friends long ago.  Think about it.  If your friend said, “I don’t care that you don’t like it when I do this, I am going to do it anyway” or “I don’t care that you feel better when I do this, I don’t have time to do that as other things are much more important”.  How would you feel?  Would you stick around? No wonder our bodies are protesting and breaking down.

The purpose of this blog is not to make you feel guilty.  There is way too much of that in the world and guilt is just our minds way of making us feel bad.  So what can you do to start to build a better relationship with your body.

Take a deep breath

Notice the sensations that are running through your body

Take another deep breath

Feel your body in this moment in time

Take another deep breath

Say hi! to your body and say thank you!

My hope is that when you read this you begin to develop awareness of your body and how amazing it is. There may be days when you are angry and frustrated at it because it is not there for you the way you need.  On other days, you may be scared that you have neglected it for too long and now are suffering the consequences and cannot undo the damage.  And on other days, you may wonder how come your body is still there for you, even though you have always taken it for granted.  Think of your body as your friend and ask yourself how you would treat a friend?  If you have been out of relationship with it, ask yourself, what can I do NOW to begin to rebuild my relationship with my body.

Remember: The breath is the most underutilized tool we have to connect us with our body. Use it daily and use it often.  Let me know how you do.

Blog with you later,


Are you Grounded?

June 22, 2009

How many of you know what it means to be grounded? What does it look like for you?

Being grounded is knowing I am here, in my body, in this space and time, in this moment.  I am present in my life – NOW.

This can be challenging to achieve at the best of times.  Just this morning, I woke up and began thinking about  my plans for launching my new website, writing my blog, drafting my newsletter< I was no where in my body now.  I noticed I had not even said good morning to my body, felt the energy flow through my veins, stretched to welcome the day or even opened my eyes. Wow, even though I work with “being in the moment” every day, it is a challenge to keep myself present to all that I am doing.

So this morning when I felt so disconnected I asked myself:

In this momentwhere am I?

Answer – trying to be here

In this moment – where is here?

Answer – in my bed

In this moment – What do I see?

Answer – beautiful Mount Paul outside my window

In this moment – How do I feel?

Answer – tired and have an anxious feeling in the pit of my stomach

In this moment – What do I want to do?

Answer – Breathe and get into my body, follow my energy and let myself sleep longer if I need to

Then I had the little niggly in the back of my mind that said, you should really get up you have so much to do, you are being lazy, where is your energy, what is wrong with you this morning?

In this moment – What do I want?

Answer – I want to listen to my body, get connected with my moments, honor my inner voice, be present.

In this moment – What can I do now?

Answer – Breathe, breathe and breathe some more.  BE mindful in what I am doing.

From there, I got up, took the dog for a walk, took lots of deep breaths, paid attention to my actions of walking, breathing and worked on keeping my mind still.  When I got into the office today, I was much more grounded – I was here.  I know I have all these things to do but I love that I am following my energy to get them done.  I feel here – at least for this moment.

Blog with you later.  Enjoy your day


Letting it go

June 16, 2009

Well today is a day where I know I need to “Let it go“.  As I look at my list of  things to do and find myself scattered in getting them accomplished I realize that I have many “should’s” on my plate.  It is time to let it go.

So what does that mean?  Well for me, letting it go means – giving myself permission to not do any of them.  When I feel scattered I know I am not “in the moment”, I am in worry or obsession about what I need to do and lose sight of what I want to do.  So for today, this is how using my tools looks for me.  I am taking time with each question to be with me and listen for the answers.

In this moment – what do I want?

answer – to get connected with myself

In this moment – what can I do?

answer – breathe

In this moment – how do I feel?

answer – tired

In this moment – what can I do about it?

answer – breathe

In this moment – how do I really feel?

answer – scared that if I give myself permission to not do anything that I will lose momentum and will never pick it up

In this moment – Is this the truth?

answer – I know that when I really give myself permission to do what I need in the moment, I am energized and on task

In this moment – what do I see?

answer – trees shimmering in the breeze, my computer screen, my office and scattered papers

In this moment – how do I feel

answer – I feel that I am Here

In this moment – what do I want

answer – to post this blog and go outside in nature and enjoy the fresh air.

So off I go to live in my moments.  Give yourself permission to get connected with yourself and your moments.  When you get the answers from your inner wisdom about what you want to do – take action and do it.  Give yourself permission to “let it go“, the shoulds, the coulds and the have to’s.  Enjoy your day.

Blog with you later,