Changes to Clare Consulting and the moment-is blog

Posted August 31, 2009 by Gerrianne Clare
Categories: Uncategorized

Hi all,

You may have noticed some changes to the moment-is blog and the Clare Consulting website.  As we get ready to launch our new online moment-is community we are slowly changing the front and back end of our site.  The first of these steps was moving our blog from WordPress to our own hosted blog site.  Please note the moment-is blog is now http://clareconsulting.com/blog. As we move forward with more changes watch for new blog posts and details of our upcoming “Living the Life you Want” workshop series that can be accessed one of three ways:

  1. Through the moment-is on line community
  2. Every Wednesday night from September 30th – November 4th in a face to face workshop series held in Kamloops BC
  3. October 21 & 22 Saturday and Sunday in a face to face intensive workshop also to be held in Kamloops

We are excited to share what is new with all of you.  Please subscribe to our moment-is blog by clicking on the RSS feel link on the categories, comments and moment-is blog pages.  Send us an email or give us a call to let us know what else you would like to see in your moment-is community.  We look forward to hearing from you as we move forward with our exciting new changes.  Take care and all the best.

Gerrianne

5 Easy Ways to Tune into your Body

Posted August 26, 2009 by Gerrianne Clare
Categories: Connection, Getting Grounded

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Hi all,

As I mentioned in previous posts, Tuning into your body is a great way to become aware of the present moment.  However many people do not know what it takes to really tune in.

In my last post, I identified the breath as a great way to connect with your body. Along with the breath I would like to offer you 5 Easy ways to tune in

The Breath – Taking 3 deep intentional breaths deep into your base of your lungs.

1) Notice sensations running through your hands and feet.  Feel the warmth, the tingling that may be present

2) Focus your attention to the back of your throat.  Do you feel warmth, tightness, openness, emotion that is just sitting there.

3) Focus your attention to your solar plexus – half way between the belly button and the rib cage.  Do you feel warmth, butterflies, openness, tightness

4) Focus your attention to your face – Do you feel tension in your jaw, do you squint your eyes, relax your tongue in your mouth.

5) Focus your attention to your neck and shoulders.  Release any tension you may feel, drop your shoulders, do shoulder rolls.  What sensations do you notice there?

Take another deep breath in to through your nose for the count of 5 and out through your mouth for the count of 5.

These 5 easy steps help you to tune into your body in a sequential manner. Take the opportunity throughout your day to check in with yourself.  What are you feeling in this moment?  Taking this time will help you become more aware of what is happening for your body!

Blog with you later

Gerrianne

Are You Living the Life You Want

Posted August 21, 2009 by Gerrianne Clare
Categories: Connection, Giving Myself Permission

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What does your ideal life look like?  If you were to carry on living your life like you are today, will you feel fulfilled and satisfied in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years?  What is getting in the way of you living the life you want?  What is your relationship like with yourself?  These are some of the questions that I ask my clients when they come in and see me. Many people feel dissatisfied with their life as they know it, yet feel powerless at changing it.

The exercise of looking at how you are currently living your life and how disconnected you are from what you want can be quite eye opening.  Many of my clients blame excessive demands from work, family, and other expectations as the reason why they are off track.  Others will cite their own habits and beliefs as the culprit.  Regardless of what the reasons are, many people are unhappy in their lives.

How are you doing with these questions?  Do you feel on track and excited about the direction your life is going or do you feel disconnected and out of touch with yourself and what you want?  Before you can change anything in your life, you need to develop awareness of what is not working for you.

Awareness begins with developing a healthier, closer relationship with you. This relationship can be nurtured through tuning into the four ways that your body speaks to you: your physical body, your mind, your emotions and your self.

Your physical body:  How does your physical body communicate with you?  With sensations such as hunger, thirst, pain, fatigue and others your body lets you know when it physically needs some attention.  Do you listen to your physical body when it needs something or do you put it off until you have more time to deal with the need?

Your mind:  Sometimes called the “ego”, your mind reminds you of rules, expectations and norms of behavior that “should” be followed. It is also referred to as mental intelligence, knowledge and reason.  The mind shows up in self-talk and is often quite critical in how it speaks to you.   “You should have done this, you could have done that,” etc.  Becoming aware of your inner critic is very helpful in developing a healthier relationship with yourself

Your emotions: Emotions are what make you human and often occur below the surface of your consciousness. Feelings of sadness, frustration, anger, joy, excitement and others can create sensations in your body that often go unnoticed.   When you become aware of and name the emotions that you are feeling, you can learn effective ways of dealing with them.  Often times, when we are under stress, our lives are ruled by our emotions and we become more reactionary rather than approaching the situation from a calm perspective

Your self: This is the voice of the inner you.  The “you” that may not be heard because your mind or emotions take over.

    The key to developing a healthier relationship with yourself is to become aware of all of these voices and noticing which one you give priority to. What are the messages you are getting from your physical body, your mind, your emotions and your self?  Do you give yourself permission to listen to and act on what is right for you?

    Remember, as you venture forth on your journey through life, be gentle on yourself.  It is only with awareness that you can change anything.  It is through reflecting on how you are living your life, telling yourself the truth and being with yourself in the present moment that allows you to discover another beautiful layer of you.

    Blog with you later.

    Gerrianne

    Tuning into your body!!

    Posted August 13, 2009 by Gerrianne Clare
    Categories: Getting Grounded, In This Moment

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    Our body is the most amazing vehicle we have to tune into the present moment.   Our body is with us at all times,  yet many of us do not spend any time in relationship with our bodies.

    How does our body speak to us?  We feel sensations of hunger, thirst, tiredness, etc. We feel emotions of anger, sadness, frustration and joy.  We have voices that speak to us telling us what we should and should not do and we have our inner voice that tries to be heard.

    When was the last time that you took time to tune into your body?  Do you know how to do this? In the next few posts I will give you some easy ways to start to tune into your body, moment by moment.

    For today:

    Take a deep intentional breath into the middle of your chest.

    Notice any sensations in your hands and feet.

    Notice the feeling in your face.

    Is there any tension in your jaw, are your teeth clenched?

    Relax your neck and shoulders – notice how they feel.

    Notice your back and abdomen – what are the sensations there?

    Take a moment to relax any areas in your body that you feel tension.

    Take another deep intentional breath into the middle of your chest.

    How do you feel after doing this?

    Take a few minutes every day to tune into your body.  Schedule it for when you get up, at lunch, before you leave work and before you go to bed.  When you develop the habit of tuning in, you start to develop a better relationship with your body and you will learn to know what it needs.

    Let me know if this works for you.  Blog with you later.

    Gerrianne

    Summertime

    Posted July 31, 2009 by Gerrianne Clare
    Categories: Giving Myself Permission, Health and Wellness, Intention

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    Summer is here and in full swing.  The urge to sit back, relax and do nothing is strong.  Yet I have many things that I need to DO.

    I have to admit, I have never liked working in the summer.  It probably stems from when my kids were home and I found the summer was a time to connect with them, relax and enjoy the summertime pace.  Once school started back in September there was a lot of craziness in trying to balance their school, my work, extracurricular activities, driving them everywhere all the while trying to stay fit, healthy, relaxed and NICE.  Even now that my children are grown and out of the house, the relaxed pace of summer is nice.  There is more sunshine, longer days, and fitness and staying healthy are easier to achieve because it just is.  I love to golf, swim, hike, hang out by the pool, go to the lake etc. The TV is never on in our house and life is all about being and staying healthy.

    I was reflecting last week that too much of my life revolves around “DOING”.  I feel a constant nagging at me to do this, do that, run here, run there – staying on the constant never ending treadmill we call life.  My life this summer has been a conflict between the doing and the being.  I notice that my moments of brilliance have come from “BEING” in my life. I know I have many things to do, however my writing, my joy and my inspiration have come from hanging out with friends,  family and mostly myself.  My greatest connection to myself has come when I allow myself to “BE”.  When I give myself permission to trust that I will get the impulse to take INSPIRED ACTION when the time is right, I no longer need to stress about “getting things done”.

    What is INSPIRED ACTION? For me it means that I do only that which I feel inspired to do.  When I set the intention that I want to achieve a certain goal by a certain time and then “let it go”, it is amazing how the steps unfold easily and effortlessly.  When I force myself to take action, alot of this action comes from a “should” mind set and getting the job done takes much longer and in my mind is not nearly as good.

    For example, I started writing this blog several times because I knew I wanted to get one written this week as I am going on holidays next week.  Lately I have not wanted to be in front of a computer writing blogs, I want to be outside enjoying the beautiful summer weather.  However, tonight, my husband and I went out for a lovely dinner with friends, had some great conversation, enjoyed some good food and some good wine and really connected with them on their journey through life.  When I got home, I felt the impulse to write this blog about my challenges with always “doing” what is expected of me instead of “BEING” in my moments and in my life NOW.  As I reflect on the challenges of developing the content for my new website, meeting deadlines (self-imposed) and being in integrity with what I believe I realize that once again, I AM DEVELOPING DEEPER AWARENESS of how I want to be in my life.  Only through this awareness can I change and grow.

    So off I go now to enjoy some well deserved time off with my husband and youngest daughter. I feel so blessed to have them in my life and look forward to being with them for the next week.  While we are away, I am giving myself full permission to not think about work, content development, clients, workshops, writing my book or anything related to my work. However, what I know is that I love what I do and I am constantly being inspired by my day to day moments – so you may find me with a pen and paper scrolling notes while catching a few rays of sunshine at the lake.   This will truly be “inspired action”.
    Take care all, enjoy next week and I will blog with you the week of August 11th.

    Happy Summer

    Gerrianne

    Visioning in real life

    Posted July 25, 2009 by Gerrianne Clare
    Categories: Giving Myself Permission, Going for Your Dreams

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    Many of us know that we want to create a vision for ourselves so we can get to where we want to in our lives.  Yet somehow, developing this vision is easier said than done.  What does visioning look like?  In my last post I outlined a process to guide you in developing a vision of where you want to be.  Today I will give you an example of how I applied this formula as I have set out goals for where I want to be in my business.

    One of my goals is to be invited to speak and conduct workshops on the international stage.  As I achieve this goal, my vision is that I continue to be true to my values of family and relationship with my success.  To apply the formula of what it will look, sound, and feel like to accomplish this goal I have the following on my vision board.

    I have a picture of an invitation from a Woman’s support network in Paris, inviting me to conduct a two day workshop with their membership on learning to live authentically in the moment.  Beside the invitation, I have a picture of my husband, my 3 children and their spouses standing in front of The Four Seasons Hotel in Paris where there is a poster displaying details of my workshop that is being presented.  Beside that I have a picture of me facilitating a workshop of woman.  The woman are smiling, chatting with each other, working at tables.  There are captions above the women’s heads indicating what they are saying about me “Thank you so much for this workshop, I feel inspired to make the changes I need” “this is exactly what I need to move forward in my life” . A caption above my head reads “I love what I do, I feel like I am truly making a difference in these women’s lives”.

    As I work with this vision and putting the details on paper, I get into how it feels for me to accomplish this goal.  I pay attention to where in my body I notice the sensation of excitement and honor I feel to be able to do this work.  For me, the feeling is in the solar plexus, half way between the belly button and the rib cage.  I get in touch with the textures, colors and sensations of the feeling.  On my vision board, I  have the words to describe these feelings.  This vision board is displayed in my office.  It is specific to the goal I have for this aspect of my vision.  I have other vision boards that capture the essence of other goals that I want to accomplish.

    I love this process as it is fun and inspiring.  The other thing I put on my vision board is the statement “This or something better is my goal”  which helps me be open to the possibility of an even better outcomes.

    WHAT do you want?  Can you get into the sights, sounds, feelings and textures of the goal?  Allow yourself to dream.  As you gain clarity on what you want, the HOW to accomplish this goal will start to show up.

    Take care and I will blog with you soon.

    Gerrianne

    When You Focus on What You Want: The How Will Show Up

    Posted July 15, 2009 by Gerrianne Clare
    Categories: Giving Myself Permission, Going for Your Dreams

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    It is amazing how many of my clients limit themselves in their dreams because they do not have any idea of HOW they will achieve them. The reality is:

    When you gain clarity on WHAT you want, the HOW will show up.

    What do you want?

    Write out one specific goal you would like to achieve

    Outline:

    What will MY goal look like when I accomplish it

    Imagine you were to take a picture of your life when you have accomplished this goal, what will be happening, who will be there?

    What will it feel like when I achieve this goal,

    Where in your body do you feel it

    Have you had that feeling before, if so, remember that feeling and reconnect with how it feels

    What will I hear from myself and others as I accomplish this goal

    Imagine that you have accomplished your goal – ask yourself  “What am I saying to myself when I achieve this goal and what will others be saying about me”

    Create a vision board with pictures that represent what your life looks like when you have  accomplished this goal

    Write out statements of how you feel as you work towards this goal e.g. relaxed, confident, trusting

    Let your imagination go

    Have fun with this process.

    Sometimes, our minds take over during this process and we begin to doubt our ability to accomplish our goals:

    Acknowledge your mind’s attempts to keep from you dreaming about the possibilities.  Say “Thank you Mind for trying to give me a dose of reality, but I want to keep dreaming about the possibilities” .

    Some people that think it is silly to dream and that they will only be disappointed when they do not get what they want.  This is a very limiting belief.

    People who allow themselves to get into the whole experience of “acting as if” the dream has already been achieved are noticeably more excited about life as they actively pursue their dreams.

    People who “go for their dreams” are more likely to achieve what they want because they give themselves permission to.

    Imagine the possibilities and create the life you want.

    My question to you is:

    Are you giving yourself permission to dream – to go for WHAT you want or are you stuck in trying to figure out how to get what you want and need in life.

    The purpose of this post is to help you develop awareness around your beliefs about getting what you want in life.  Only through awareness can we change anything.

    Have fun with your process of discovery.

    In my next blog, I will give you an example of how I applied this formula to one of my big goals.  Take care and I will blog with you later this week.

    Gerrianne




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